Being Matthew’s [aching] mum…

By Lucie Gregory, Matthew’s mum … Someone once said, “The days are long when you have children, but the years are fast”. I never really thought much about it, but [...]

By Lucie Gregory, Matthew’s mum …

Someone once said, “The days are long when you have children, but the years are fast”.

I never really thought much about it, but I keep thinking how true that is.

The days ARE long and tiring but I can’t believe how quickly time is going, and Matthew will be five later this year.

It’s getting harder as he grows as he’s getting heavier and heavier. I used to worry about him not gaining weight, and now I worry about him putting weight on!

When they’re little you can throw them around, sit them on your knee, and have lots of lovely cuddles. But I’m dreading when I can’t lift him, or swing him around and make him giggle. I don’t want him in his chair or bed day and night, but I’m only as strong as I am.

I have impressive biceps, which I never had before (despite going to the gym when I was younger!) and lifting is good for the old bingo wings, but it’s my back that lets me down – it’s not getting stronger; it’s weaker. I have always had a bad back – it’s not just Matthew’s fault bless him.

I stoop over because I’m tall, and I have a bit of a ‘lurch’ complex, so always tried to appear shorter by rounding my shoulders – and dropping a hip. I’m OK with being tall now, but the damage has been done.

 

I’ve been speaking to lots of people this week; we’re all in the same boat with bad backs. We need a mobile masseuse to come to Footprints! I’m treating myself to a massage tomorrow. I can’t wait, but I know I will spend the whole time thinking of things I need to do when I get home (see my previous blog!). Hopefully, my back muscles WILL relax!

It’s important for mums, dads, and carers to look after themselves and take time to do something (like a massage). I know that diet has a lot to do with mood and energy – I try where I can, and keep thinking I must eat healthily to feel better (and be more awake).

However, I keep looking at the Danish butter cookie tin, and the leftover Christmas chocolates – and I’ve not started the ‘my body is temple ‘ mindset yet!

And dry January – what was that?!

Footprints Conductive Education Centre is a small charity based in Nottingham.

To find out more about their work visit https://www.footprintscec.org/what-we-do/ and to see how you can support them, please see their ‘support us’ page https://www.footprintscec.org/support-us/

They make such a difference to the lives of children with disabilities AND their parents and families – it really is life-transforming. If you are a company seeking to support a local charity making a difference in the local community, please get in touch. They need £200,000 every year to help families like mine.

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